Change can be difficult.
Things end, new things start, and it can feel as though everything is crashing down around you.
I get it, I really do. Our family is going through some significant changes right now, and boy is it weird. After thirteen years of being a housewife and a stay at home mum, I recently returned to the workforce.
I was lucky enough to get a job with the same company that my partner works for, and they agreed to work our hours around each other so that one of us is always at home to take care of the kids and we don’t have to worry about paying for childcare.
On top of the new job, I also started studying again last week through distance learning, which means that I’m now juggling paid employment, studying, running the blog, taking care of the home and trying to spend quality time with my boys.
It is HARD. But you know what? I love it!
Thankfully, Jonny has been incredible. He fully supported my decision to retrain and has picked up the slack with the housework on his days at home with the kids. This has been a massive help to me, as it’s the last thing I feel like doing after working a ten-hour shift.
He’s also come to realise how much he enjoys being a stay at home parent. He loves it so much that we’ve made the decision that I will take a full-time position so that he can give up work to take care of the boys on a permanent basis.
I’m the first to admit that the prospect of going back to work after more than a decade off scared the crap out of me. (Not that I think being a stay at home parent is easy or a break – it’s not!) But despite my fear, I found that once I was there and I’d found my feet, it wasn’t anywhere near as bad as I’d been expecting it to be. In fact, it’s been a joy to get out and meet new people (even as a confirmed introvert) and to have an adult conversation, which makes a nice change to the usual toddler speak that I’ve become accustomed to!
Which brings me back to the point of this post.
It’s ok to be scared of things changing. Being uncertain of the unfamiliar is normal. Hell, it’s the classic fight or flight response that kept our distant ancestors alive! You just can’t allow that fear to control you to the point that you miss out on opportunities that might present themselves.
Yes, change can be unsettling. It can be hard, and it can be downright terrifying. But instead of running for the hills, talk it out with someone you trust. You might find that embracing the changes in your life means that you get everything you’ve ever wanted.